Marriage Advice

Monday, August 29, 2011

The first round of weddings begin this weekend when my best friend Ally, marries the love of her life Joe. I am so excited for them to start their married lives together! All this wedded bliss makes me think of my own wedding & marriage...

Here are a few things I have learned over the past 2 years of marriage:

             ~ Do not start doing something, unless you want to continue to do it
                      for the rest of your life 
Example:  If you start doing his laundry, be prepared that he will expect you to keep doing his laundry.

              ~ Try not to live in a world of extremes: EVERY TIME, ALWAYS, NEVER...
Example: "You NEVER do what you say you're going to do!"
These statements are not only untrue, but will get you nowhere in the world of communication, & can very much hurt your spouses feelings.

             ~ Continue to be strong & independent from your spouse.
Example: do not let your spouse become everything in your world, because no matter if you think they are superman or woman, they will disappoint you. Its also not fair to hold them responsible for your happiness. Make your own happiness and they will want to join in!

This one is for the ladies
              ~ Men are simple. Not simple minded, just simple.
Example: When they say "I don't care where we eat." He isn't saying,  he doesn't care about spending time together or that he doesn't want to make the decision. He just honestly does not care about where to eat. He wants you to choose because he will love whatever you decide. Promise! And when they want to make a decision....don't worry, they will!

This one is for the guys
             ~ Sometimes we just want to talk!
Example: If we're upset or mad or frustrated, just talking it out is one of the best ways we release our anger. Let us talk about how were feeling (yes feelings, I know you don't get it, but just listen anyways) Most of the time after we talk, we feel better.

              ~ Men need Respect & Women need Love
Example: Give your husband respect, it is desperately what he needs & strives for, and in so doing, he will give you the Love that we so desperately need in return. If one need is not being met, the other will also fall short.

I hope some of the wisdom I have learned in my 2 short years of marriage will give you a giggle & help you in any of your relationships.

            To my wonderful husband, Christopher - 
            "If I could choose again, I would still choose you"
  I love you with all my heart.
      - Katie


  1. What great advice, Katie! Chris is a lucky guy!

  2. wow Katie! Your blog is awesome! -Meredith Hart