baby talk

Thursday, April 19, 2012

Alright let's talk about it.

Being a young woman in my mid twenties, married for almost three years & a dog mommy for a little longer, owns a house, & is ultimately pretty darn stable; simply means that every person in the world is allowed to ask me the question....

"When are you going to have a baby?"
insert horror film music now...ha. just kidding...kinda, not really.

But truly let's not start out on the wrong foot. First of all, I absolutely positively want children.  I even knew as I was growing up that one day I would be a mom. I want to play in the grass, rock them to sleep, kiss boo boos, give pig tails, read bedtime stories, sing silly songs, play games, make snack baskets* and everything in between.  Being a mom is something I know I was born to do.  My husband and I both want children;  being married to such an amazing man makes me want to have part of him with me all the time.

But what I am struggling with is, when is it "the right time"?  Do you just feel it? Do you wake up one morning and say, "I'm ready to have a baby!" Ekkk, I think not.  But even our life right now is in a way, "the perfect time" to start a family.  I use quotations, because I mean really, is there ever a "perfect" time to have a baby??  Nope.  Life my sweet friends is crazy, don't ever count on it being the way you think its going to be.  

Sorry, got sidetracked.  Anywho...I have been thinking about these things for quite sometime{well ever since I was first asked, "the question"} and my conclusion right now is simple.  I don't know when we are going to have a baby.  Actually, you want my honest answer.  I'm scared.  I 'm scared to take the plunge.  To make the decision that will ultimately change our lives forever.   No turning back once the decision is made.  I know I want two, three, or four kids{my husband will read this and faint} having them is not what scares me, what scares me most is actually making the decision to start. Right now I'm a dog mommy, and that is easy.  But I've heard babies are a little different.... Ha.  

I'm scared it will change my relationship with my husband, my friends, my parents.....and you know how I feel about change.  Oh, and let me be vain for a minute, I don't want my body to change, I want to look like a 24 year old forever{in my dreams, I know} but seriously, it is a pretty scary thing to think about.  Knowing your body is going to transform, is both a beautiful and frightening thought.  Also, I might experience emotions & moods I never dreamed I would have.  Now, that truly is scary. 

So to all those inquiring minds out there our conclusion for now, is simple......

We don't know when we are going to have a baby.  Maybe soon, maybe not. 

But don't worry{mom} we will have one....eventually.  And please please don't think I am the least bit bothered by "the question".  I know it comes from a place of love when asked.  But in return, take my smile and sweet answer of, "I don't know" and rest easy that it will happen, one day.

As for now, I'm leaving it at that.

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*snack baskets = awesomeness
its a basket filled with an array of different snacks: pretzles, marshmallows, m&m's, peanuts, cereal pieces; 
really anything that was in the pantry.  My mom made this for me and my brother.  And I will carry on the tradition, its one of my favorite childhood memories.


  1. Of course, your post title brought me here with baited breath! But you are absolutely okay not knowing when, and taking your time. One day you will wake up and either be pregnant, or obsessed with the idea of being pregnant...and then you'll know. By the way, in the old days, ( pre-60's, pre-pill) women didn't have to worry about deciding. Almost every couple who got married had a baby within the first year...and if they didn't, the community viewed them with suspicion! haha! So you can't win! No matter what, you will be a wonderful mama. I can already see that.

  2. Sami MontellaApril 19, 2012

    You will make a great mommy when it happens! :)

  3. This is a great post, Katie! Josh and I aren't going to start a family for quite awhile, either. I love your honesty on this issue... I'm scared, too! You and Chris will make awesome parents, when the time comes. :)

  4. There is never a perfect time unfortunately Katie......interestingly when it happens it becomes the perfect time!!

  5. I enjoyed this post and I am definitely in agreement :) love you, bestie!

  6. Four!?! Oh boy.... Lol, I love you. We are in this together.